As we (John & Gaia) sit down to write this - It's Sunday tea-time. With the dark closing in, one hour earlier than yesterday. Monday tomorrow. Winter coming. Lockdown news getting heavier every day. We all face different levels of difficulty. We all face...

Hi Lovely You, If you've been following us and F**k It for a while, you won't have heard much about this side of what I (John) do - Helping people in businesses with F**k It infused advice. Sure, you've heard me talking about 'F**k It, Do What You Love' plenty of...

Hi Friends, So we're seeing this insidious threat and its devastating effects on the world, particularly in the U.S.A., creating fear and horror as its toxic effects spread through society. And then there's the coronavirus. Yes, Trump's true colours are revealed yet...

Lockdown. How are you doing? These are strange times. Thoughts that we wanted to share with you a few days ago seem barely relevant now.The thought and ideas we wanted to share a couple of months ago seem like they’re from different people on a different planet. We...

Hi Friends,  John & Gaia here, your F**k It guides through good times and scary times. We recently asked those of you on our mailing list -  "What's your Rice Pudding for the Soul?" In other words -what words would soothe you through these difficult times? And we...

Hello friends, The coronavirus crisis is reminding me (John) that my brain is plastic. Not in the sense of it being plastic like recyclable bottles, though I suppose my brain will recycle into something when I'm gone. But in the sense of the plasticity, the...

Whoah! We sent out last 'Don't Panic!' message out at the weekend. It feels like a month ago. Do you remember those days, back at the weekend, when you had all those different thoughts, and all those different feelings, oh, those were the days! Things are moving fast....

Hi Friends, John & Gaia here, your F**k It guides through good times and scary times. We got a big response to the message we sent out last weekend offering some lighter words and reassurance around the coronavirus -mainly from people feeling more relaxed and...

Hi Friends, John & Gaia here, your F**k It guides through good times and bad. And here we all are facing the coronavirus thing. So this post will move from some levity on the subject, to a serious point and then onto a list of points that should reassure us all....

It's a week since Gaia was leading her long-weekend -Breaking the Psychological Spell -in Brighton. And it turns out this title is perfect for the work that Gaia does. I'll give you a little hint of the weekend, so you can see how. Twenty of us gathered in the cosy...

'What a relief' -Isn't that a lovely expression -And a lovely sensation? I felt it this last week when World War III didn't kick off. But we feel it often and in many ways - What a relief when - We get indoors on a cold and wet day We didn't put on any weight despite...

So here's a resolution to undercut the rest of them - "F**k It, I'll be me." Put aside what the world wants of you - To step into the 'New You', to be thinner, fitter, eat more healthily, drink less, be kinder, to earn more, give more, take more, to work harder, to up...

Phew. It's quite an opening to this year / decade isn't it? At the end of last year, many of us looked back at 2019, and, together, we looked at how we'd changed. You can read what we all wrote (including me, Gaia and the boys) on this page - F**K IT, I'VE CHANGED And...

Gaia and I have been married 21 years. We realised recently that we've become really good at arguing. 🙂 And we're going to share some of these hard-won tips to arguing well. What are you on about, you say, surely the sign of a good relationship is that there are no...

I (John) am just back from a walk on the sandy beach (as above) near our home here in Fano on the east coast of Italy. Well, more a sea-stroll - walking knee-deep in the warm water, like many other relaxed and care-free sea-strollers do in the calm shallow water here....

It's probably hot hot hot where you are. In the U.K. it could hit a record temperature today. Here in Italy, it's another hot one. It's easy to read advice about what to do in the heat. You probably know already - drink lots of water, stay out of direct sunlight (like...

Gaia is very excited. She eats, breathes and sleeps her investigation into how we all tick.This is what she does. On retreats, in workshops, with her band of private 1-to-1 clients:(And with something you may not have heard of, because it only opens once a year, in...

Our next online Evening Retreat - titled 'F**k It to Worry' (as suggested by you) -  will be live on the evening of Wednesday May 22nd at 7.30pm UK. We'll send you more details later, but pop it in your diary. Like the last one, it will be £27 for the session,  And...

Hi Lovely You, I (John) was walking around town this morning (and 'town' is Fano on the east coast of Italy). And I became more-than-usual-aware of my thoughts about those I was passing, or came into contact with (in the cafe for example). I became aware of the...

A couple of days ago, I (John) bumped my car. And it did me a lot of good. Here's what happened: On my way to the office, I pulled over next to the beach to eat my yoghurt breakfast. I'd normally go for a walk there, but that day there was just time to eat the yoghurt...