Notice More: The Relaxation Habit You're Probably Missing Most of us spend an astonishing amount of time in our heads. We're thinking about what happened yesterday. Rehearsing conversations that haven't happened yet. Planning, analysing, worrying, solving problems,...

Most of us are incredibly well trained in noticing what’s wrong. What’s irritating. What’s missing. What’s stressful. What’s disappointing. The person driving too fast. The weather. The parcel left outside in the rain. The noisy bloke on the train. The duvet cover...

A lot of the most powerful things are annoyingly simple. That’s partly why we ignore them. If I tell you there’s a habit that can help calm your nervous system, lower stress, help you sleep, make you feel more grounded, more spacious, less caught up in your head… and...

Here’s something I’ve noticed over the years. You can’t be relaxedandnot be telling the truth. You might not be lying.You might not be doing anything wrong.But if you’re not quite telling it how it is, something tightens. Just a little. And that little bit matters....

We spend years fiddling with every complicated method under the sun to feel calmer: meditation apps, cold plunges, Himalayan salt lamps, and that special herbal tea we swear must be doing something. But the greatest relaxation tool we have?We carry it...

Relax whilst walking. If you think about it, walking has always been one of our most natural states.We were made to walk - to move slowly, to take in what’s around us, to wander and wonder. And yet, most of us now walk in a blur.Lost in thought. Lost in podcasts. Lost...

Have you ever noticed that your body seems to hold on to something long after your mind has “moved on”? Perhaps it’s a buzz of anxiety, a tightness in your chest, or a protective pulling back in certain moments. This isn’t your imagination - it’s your nervous system...

Most of us hate arguments. We avoid them at all costs. We bite our tongues, smile politely, and keep the peace - even when something inside us is screaming to be heard. And yet, here’s the paradox: avoiding arguments often costs us far more than having them. When we...

Are you too kind? Is it part of an adaptive mechanism from your youth? Read this new article to explore with me.

Listening to ourselves, generally, is a very good idea. We do far too little of it. What’s that got to do with a canary? Read to find out.

So what is this?
For me, and maybe for you,
it’s an invitation to slow it down and savour the moments, hold the ones we love close,
reach out with a smile to strangers, enjoy the happy memories without sitting in regret for the less happy ones.
Savour it and cry about it when you feel like it.

Back in 2002, wandering around Italy in a camper van,
our one year old twin boys in the back,
we were, in a rather leisurely way,
looking for a bit of paradise,
to park our van, to renovate a farmhouse, to welcome people to our retreat centre.

When we were told there was a WHOLE HILL for sale,
in a protected and wild valley near the renaissance jewel of Urbino, with two abandoned farmhouses,
we strapped the boys into their child seats and headed into the hills.

If you haven't met before, we'd like to introduce you to the volcano. This is where we're doing our 2023 retreats. Stromboli.Not 'Vulcano', a nearby volcanic island (with a dormant volcano) from where we get the word 'volcano',but the volcano of STROMBOLI, majestic,...

We have instead taken on the whole Black Friday thing with relish these last few years.
Which seems a pity.
We’ve ignored a festival devoted to giving thanks, and embraced a chance to shop instead.

Gaia uses me as a guinea pig to refine and develop her many therapeutic ideas and processes.

Yesterday Gaia was taking me through a further development of her ‘Being Me Butterfly Model’,
it’s the model she uses in her Being Me University and with her regular 1-to-1 clients.

Life has its downs as well as its ups.
We feel good, then we feel not so good…

So it’s really ‘in’ at the moment, lying. Everyone’s at it.

The currency of a lie is sky-high, like verbal bit-coins. Facts are out, like trying to use cash in a corner shop.

DID YOU ENJOY V DAY? (That was what the press were calling the first day of 'V'accinating in the UK last week)Of course it really is a V for Victory of sorts.The roll-out of the first super-effective vaccine, a vaccine that has been developed in record time, that...

BREATHWORK & TRAUMA WORK By Gaia PolliniTrauma is a form of numbing. When an experience is overwhelming, the nervous system protects us by numbing us. We literally stop feeling. This numbness happens in our bodily feelings, but also in our emotional feelings and...

Anyone out there feeling somewhat gloomy at the moment?Yeah, of course you are.There are 100 possible reasons for that. Anyone out there feeling hopeful at the moment?Yeah, of course you are.There are 100 possible reasons for that. Yes, supremely weird frickin' times....

We wrote to our subscribers recently with an invitation to 'Sit with Difficulty' (and you can read our blog on this HERE). It's hard. But there's plenty of difficulty around at the moment to practise on. Just in these last few days, we've had the nail-biting U.S....