EXPLORING THE REVOLUTIONARY MODEL
OF THE ‘BEING ME THERAPY’ BUTTERFLY

A foundational principle of ‘Being Me Therapy’ is the revolutionary idea that simply being more ourselves can resolve many problems. 

The Butterfly Model takes this further: that it’s by directly confronting the struggles arising from our adapted selves that we uncover not just ‘me’, but a true and sacred me that then connects us to the whole. 

The Butterfly Model is the revelation of a revolutionary idea – that we can access our divine selves, and the divine, through our struggles. 
And it is complete: in that it comprises the steps to such revelations and it points at the completeness of our own existence (that the struggle is both a doorway to the divine self and a part of the divine).

IDENTIFYING THE FEAR UNDERNEATH AND UNCOVERING THE ORIGINAL PAIN (STARTING TO WORK WITH TRAUMA)

Being Me Therapy works with unconscious avoidance.
This question will often guide the process: “What am I avoiding here that is divine?” 

Through exploring the mechanisms of attachment, in this module you will discover how ‘The Fear Underneath’ and ‘The Original Pain’ are responsible for such involuntary avoidance.  

 You’ll discover that we learnt to avoid our divine parts because they were denied in childhood. And how pain, fear and shame are actually associated with these divine parts that we’d actually like to bring back into our lives now.  

So you will learn to look out for and identify the fears, pain and shame hidden beneath, and work with them in the open. This is a core part of working with the Butterfly Model. 

You will learn to ask yourself and sense “what is going on beneath?” and to facilitate bringing all that back into the light despite the avoidance.

IDENTIFYING SOMEONE’S ADAPTIVE MECHANISMS

‘Being Me Therapy’ allows us to see with clarity the ways in which we are not being true to ourselves. These untruths show up most overtly in our ‘adaptive behaviours’.
These are the behaviours that are not authentically ours, but have been learnt in childhood in order to adapt to our families’ requirements.  

The different behavioural styles change depending on type of parenting and on the developmental age and at which we were not properly met. 

You will learn the 5 adaptive mechanisms (based on developmental trauma work) and their the corresponding behaviours. 

You will learn how to recognise them, and how spotting such mechanisms can help you and your client see what is inauthentic, and which are the authentic feelings and behaviour they are unconsciously avoiding. 

THE THREAD THAT JOINS PSYCHOLOGY, PHYSIOLOGY AND ENERGY: 
THE ‘POWER UNDERNEATH’

As we reconnect to the Divine Parts – the truer parts of us – our power comes back.
The power that was previously shut down returns to our bodies. And the compressed energy expands.  

The physical body and energetic body are deeply connected with the psychological structure. So shifts in self–perception (psychological structure) greatly affect body and energy and vice-versa: 
the realisations about our true and positive identity allow shifts in the nervous system and energetic system, and vice versa. 

In order to support this process, it is necessary to understand how the nervous system works and how to work with it. Gaia will mix the principles of Somatic Experiencing, of Polyvagal Theory and of Developmental Trauma to illustrate how to facilitate the return of the ‘power underneath’. 

In this module we will explore in depth how to reconnect to anger and healthy aggression, and how this affects shifting out of powerlessness and into agency. 

THE DOORWAY OF THE DIVINE PART: 
HOW THE HOMECOMING TO THE DIVINE PART CONNECTS US TO THE DIVINE 

As fears, lies and protections peel off in the journey of Being Me Therapy, the divine parts emerge over and over again.
And then we accept it is safe to be out there in the world as ME with all MY feelings.  

When this happens, people then often describe a feeling of ‘homecoming’, or ‘the simplest and most natural place to be’ or a ‘landing right back in my body and myself’.  

Experiencing this deep sense of ‘rightness’ in the moment, puts us in touch with a sense of ‘rightness of being’.
It becomes an experience of just being… here, now. 
As we are, and as we are meant to be. 

And as many masters describe, this ‘just being’ experience is a divine state.
A state of expansion beyond the restrictions of mind, body, time.
By becoming fully ourselves we go beyond ourselves…

THE THERAPY OF LOVING YOUR SHADOW AND VULNERABILITY

In this module you will explore how certain survival mechanisms can be responsible for aspects of your character which you profoundly dislike or judge, or that are really not helpful:
the shadow parts of you. 

When we realise that these shadows are actually the outcome of having had to survive (often alone) as a child, and that they are very young parts of us (which are often connected with deep shame), we become a lot softer on ourselves and we stop trying to get rid of them.
Most of you will know the phrase (from Jung) ‘what we resist persists’. When we are able to see them as young survival parts, and we understand and feel what they were trying to do for us, the shame diminishes, and we actually become freer to experience other versions of ourselves. 

By accepting and feeling compassion for our shadows, we actually become freer and more flexible in our behaviours.  

You will also discover the profound difference between powerlessness (often experienced by the child self) and vulnerability (which can be experienced by the mature adult self): where vulnerability is a state of acceptance of our human imperfection, and is thus far from powerless.