WOW, LOOK HOW FAR WE’VE COME
AND LOOK WHERE WE’RE GOING…
A Message from Gaia
It’s worth looking at our progress along ‘The Path Back to You’.
Wow!
We’ve made this back back to ourselves, moving through the Adaptive Mechanisms, so beautifully.
And now it’s time to build on what we’ve learnt and move to the next stage…
With our ‘Being Me Butterfly Model’.
You’re going to love this.
Big love,
Gaia
Most of what you need in one panel:
1. BEING ME (June)…
Thurs 24 June 2021
BEING ME IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS PT II
In this second part of Being Me in Romantic Relationships, you will explore the astonishing power of feeling AN EQUAL within your relationships…
And how that can bring a deeper connection as well as freedom.
Being Me in Romantic Relationships Pt II
Your live group recording from the session on 24 June will be here within a few days of the session (though you’ll receive a link to the Zoom cloud recording the day after the session).
2. BEING ME (Coming Up)…
Thurs 27 May 2021
BEING ME IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS PT I
The ideal place to start. In romantic relationships, as they are primary relationships, we tend to repeat a lot of the adaptive mechanisms we had used to fit in within our family of origin. In this first part, you will explore what Gaia calls ‘IDENTITY DYSMORPHIA’: how, in relationships, we distort our true shape for safety.
Thurs 24 June 2021
BEING ME IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS PT II
In this second part of Being Me in Romantic Relationships, you will explore the astonishing power of feeling AN EQUAL within your relationships…
And how that can bring a deeper connection as well as freedom.
Thurs 29 July 2021
BEING ME AROUND WORK PT I
In Part I you will explore what CHILDHOOD DYNAMICS are HOLDING YOU BACK in your work-life and in your work desires.
The big themes of survival, authority and limiting our own expression usually pop up here.
Thurs 26 Aug 2021
BEING ME AROUND WORK PT II
In PART II, we’ll get in touch with the ‘I want to’ instead of the ‘I have to’…
and how that leads us to our ‘OWN PERSONAL GENIUS’:
the light inside that changes everything.
3. Being Me (Catching Up)
This is the core work of the ‘Path Back to Me’ that we’ve been doing so far:
The 5 Adaptive Mechanisms, that show the 5 different styles in which we veer away from our authenticity. This is the background and the foundation of Gaia’s Butterfly Model.
1. The Outsider
2. The Helper
3. Superwoman / man
4. The People Pleaser
5. The Perfectionist
Your previous months’ content (library):
May 2021 –
Being Me in Romantic Relationships Pt I
What a great place to start. In romantic relationships, as they are primary relationships, we tend to repeat a lot of the adaptive mechanisms we had used to fit in within our family of origin. In this first part, you will explore what Gaia calls ‘IDENTITY DYSMORPHIA’: how, in relationships, we distort our true shape for safety.
Thurs 27 May 2021
BEING ME IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS PT I
The ideal place to start. In romantic relationships, as they are primary relationships, we tend to repeat a lot of the adaptive mechanisms we had used to fit in within our family of origin. In this first part, you will explore what Gaia calls ‘IDENTITY DYSMORPHIA’: how, in relationships, we distort our true shape for safety.
Being Me in Romantic Relationships Pt I
Your live group recording from May 2021
April 2021
The Divine Part and the God Me
This is the last step of Gaia’s Being Me Butterfly Model.
Gaia reveals the insight that makes this process so powerful… so that’s it’s possible to see that the initial step, the ‘difficulty’ is actually a doorway to this, the ‘divine part’. And this can create a complete shift in the way you see your life and its everyday difficulties.
THURS 29 APRIL 2021
THE DIVINE PART & THE GOD ME
This is HUGE. It’s a big idea and will likely change the way you see things.
All will be revealed in April.
The Divine Part & The God Me
Your live group recording from April 2021.
March 2021 –
The Being Me Butterfly Model / Step 5 – The Original Pain
In this fifth step of Gaia’s Being Me Butterfly Model, Gaia explores ‘The Original Pain’.
The original pain, seen once you’ve uncovered the ‘fear underneath’, is the pain of what was not met when you were young: the part of you that was not supported and welcomed. And even though we try to avoid this pain, beneath that is the part of us that is divine and beautiful.
THURS 25 MAR 2021
THE ORIGINAL PAIN
The original pain, seen once you’ve uncovered the ‘fear underneath’, is the pain of what was not met when you were young: the part of you that was not supported and welcomed. And even though we try to avoid this pain, beneath that is the part of us that is divine and beautiful.
The Original Pain
Your live group recording from 25.3.21
February 2021
The Being Me Butterfly / Step 4 – The Fear Underneath
In this fourth step of Gaia’s Being Me Butterfly Model, Gaia looks at ‘The Fear Underneath’.
By revealing this fear, by seeing how powerless it made us feel, and then seeing that it’s no longer applicable, we can connect with our true power, in the now.
THURS 25 FEB 2021
WHAT’S THE FEAR UNDERNEATH?
Gaia takes you beneath the difficulty (and the personal lie) to the fear beneath that, and, yes, there’s always a fear lurking under there somewhere.
By revealing this fear, by seeing how powerless it made you feel, and then seeing that it’s no longer applicable, you can connect with your true power, in the now.
And in this process, years of suppression (of the fear) can be undone and the repressed power released to serve you.
What's the Fear Underneath?
Your live group recording from 25.2.21
January 2021 –
The Being Me Butterfly Model / Step 3 – What’s the Adaptive Behaviour?
In this third step of Gaia’s Being Me Butterfly Model, Gaia asks ‘What’s your Adaptive Behaviour?’.
When we spot our adaptive behaviour in relation to this theme, it then magically reveals the feelings that we were avoiding beneath…
And, guess what, these behaviours tend to be very old and can then make room for new and more helpful behaviour.
THURS 21 JAN 2021
WHAT’S THE ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOUR?
When we spot our adaptive behaviour in relation to this theme, it then magically reveals the feelings that we were avoiding beneath…
And, guess what, these behaviours tend to be very old and can then make room for new and more helpful behaviour.
What's the adaptive behaviour?
Your live group recording from 21.1.21
December 2020
The Being Me Butterfly / Step 2 – The Personal Lie
In this second step of Gaia’s Being Me Butterfly Model, Gaia looks at ‘The Personal Lie’.
Who’d have known that we honest, law-abiding, conscientious people are actually telling lies to ourselves (and thus to others)?
Find out how to spot the lies, see how they’re affecting you, and how to start telling yourself the beautiful, liberating truth.
TUES 15 DEC 2020
THE PERSONAL LIE (THE SECOND STEP OF THE BUTTERFLY MODEL)
Once you’ve chosen the difficulty you want to work with, the Butterfly Model first helps you reveal the lie you’ve been telling about yourself in this area.
This will be an old belief that’s not actually true.
The Personal Lie
The live group recording from 15/12/20
November 2020 –
The Being Me Butterfly Model / Step 1 – Choose your Difficulty
Welcome to Gaia’s ‘Being Butterfly Model’.
This is the first step, where you choose the difficulty you’d like to work on.
Gaia guides you through how to choose the difficulty and also how to discern a theme within it that can lead you onto the next stages of the Butterfly Process.
16 NOV 2020
CHOOSE YOUR DIFFICULTY
There’s always a difficulty to work with (and particularly in these difficult times). And inside the difficulty, it’s possible to discern a theme that can start to flag where to go next on your Butterfly Journey.
Introduction to The Butterfly Model
The live group recording from 16/11/20
October 2020
The Perfectionist Part II
Gaia takes us deeper into how this fifth adaptive mechanism works in our lives: elaborating on the contrast between our natural joy, playfulness and spontaneity underneath, and the rigidity and brittleness of perfectionist behaviour.
And she talks with Bronwyn, for whom this mechanism (understanding it and working through it) has been key in her progress.
Oh, and there’s a nice surprise at the end too (and it involves music).
The Deep Workshop (audio)
The Perfectionist Part II
The Hidden Source Process Graphic
The Live Zoom Group (video)
September 2020 –
The Perfectionist Part I
And so onto the fifth and last adaptive mechanism:
The Perfectionist
How we forgo our own feelings and disconnect from knowing what is right for us (thus failing to express it).
The Deep Workshop (video)
The Deep Workshop (audio)
The Perfectionist Deep Workshop
The Live Zoom Group (video)
August 2020
The People Pleaser Part II
Gaia takes us deeper into how this fourth adaptive mechanism works in our lives: sharing some of her own experience and talking with Jon, for whom this mechanism (understanding it and working through it) has been key in his progress.
The Deep Workshop (audio)
The Perfectionist Part II
The Hidden Source Process Graphic
The Live Zoom Group (video)
July 2020 –
The People Pleaser Part I
And so we move to the fourth adaptive Mechanism: The People Pleaser –
How we forgo our own feelings and disconnect from knowing what is right for us (thus failing to express it).
The Deep Workshop (video)
The Deep Workshop (audio)
'The People Pleaser' Deep Workshop
The Live Zoom Group (video)
June 2020
Superwoman / Superman / Superperson Part II
Gaia homes in on the essence of this third adaptive mechanism by sharing her own experience and talking with Anne, for whom this mechanism (understanding it and working through it) has been key in her progress.
The Deep Workshop (audio)
Superperson Part II
The Hidden Source Process Graphic
The Live Zoom Group (video)
May 2020
Superwoman / Superman Part I
And so we move to the third adaptive Mechanism: The Superman / Superwoman –
How we suppress the natural mix of vulnerability and capability, and end up controlling everything (and exhausting ourselves).
Lovely Reminder (video)
The Deep Workshop (video)
The Deep Workshop (audio)
'Superwoman / Superman' Deep Workshop
The Live Zoom Group (video)
April 2020
The Helper Part II
Gaia talks about the second adaptive mechanism. And she talks with Mandy, who recognizes the Helper mechanism.
The F**k It Be You Hidden Source Process is mentioned, so you can find it again below.
The Deep Workshop (audio)
The Helper Part II
The Hidden Source Process Graphic
The Live Zoom Group (video)
March 2020
The Helper Part I
The second adaptive mechanism.
How we suppress our natural needs and our desire to be seen and supported.
The Lovely Reminder (video)
The Deep Workshop (video)
The Deep Workshop (audio)
'The Helper' Deep Workshop
The Live Zoom Group (video)
February 2020
The Outsider Part II
From ‘the outsider’ to ‘the included’ (from self and others).
A lovely reminder
The Outsider Part II
The Live Zoom Group (video)
January 2020
The Outsider Part I
The first adaptive mechanism.
How we suppress our deep longing for connection.
A Lovely Reminder (Video) –
The Full Video (Deep Workshop) –
The Full Audio
'The Outsider' Deep Workshop
The Live Zoom Group (video)
December 2020
An Introduction to the Hidden Source Process
Introduction to the Hidden Source Process
The Live Zoom Group (video)
A Surprise from Gaia - Being You Meditation
Being Me Over this Next Year
Thurs 27 May 2021
BEING ME IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS PT I
The ideal place to start. In romantic relationships, as they are primary relationships, we tend to repeat a lot of the adaptive mechanisms we had used to fit in within our family of origin. In this first part, you will explore what Gaia calls ‘IDENTITY DYSMORPHIA’: how, in relationships, we distort our true shape for safety.
Thurs 24 June 2021
BEING ME IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS PT II
In this second part of Being Me in Romantic Relationships, you will explore the astonishing power of feeling AN EQUAL within your relationships…
And how that can bring a deeper connection as well as freedom.
Thurs 29 July 2021
BEING ME AROUND WORK PT I
In Part I you will explore what CHILDHOOD DYNAMICS are HOLDING YOU BACK in your work-life and in your work desires.
The big themes of survival, authority and limiting our own expression usually pop up here.
Thurs 26 Aug 2021
BEING ME AROUND WORK PT II
In PART II, we’ll get in touch with the ‘I want to’ instead of the ‘I have to’…
and how that leads us to our ‘OWN PERSONAL GENIUS’:
the light inside that changes everything.
Thurs 16 Sept 2021
BEING ME AROUND MY FAMILY OF ORIGIN PT I
Ah ha! Exploring this will have a powerful effect on all the other themes that we’re exploring, as this was the place where all the repetitive dynamics started.
In PART I you will explore ‘REALITY VERSUS EMOTIONALITY’: how we distort our perception of our parents and siblings to keep ourselves attached to our family of origin.
Thurs 21 Oct 2021
BEING ME AROUND MY FAMILY OF ORIGIN PT II
In PART II, we will be exploring ‘BOUNDARIES & LOVE’:
you’ll learn how to recognise when you are in ‘child consciousness’, compared to when you are in the ‘here and now adult’, able to have boundaries and still an open heart (when it is appropriate).
Thurs 18 Nov 2021
BEING ME SAYING NO
Saying NO requires being in touch with our ‘HEALTHY AGGRESSION’, which is a clear and clean assertiveness.
You will explore and discover your healthy aggression, and realise how it can feel scary and dangerous to say ‘no’, because our natural ‘nos’, our protest, and natural anger as children were not allowed or punished or met with the parents’ withdrawal of love.
Thurs 16 Dec 2021
BEING ME SAYING YES
Many of us have a fear of going for stuff – even stuff that feels great. We taste it for a bit, and we go back to the old pains.
If our bigness was suppressed in childhood, WE LEARN TO STIFLE OUR OWN JOY, and shame our own power and passions.
January 2022
BEING ME WHEN I WANT SOMETHING
Wanting something can easily trigger early life experiences of not getting our needs met.
If the old body and emotional memories are of ‘scarcity’, the act of wanting as an adult often results in fear and mistrust and expectation to ‘not get’.
We will work to reveal that we are often blind to what is actually available in the now.
February 2022
BEING ME MOMENT TO MOMENT
This one is about TRUSTING. When we start realising that we’re not under threat in our adult lives, we become more present to what is here, and become more clear about what is real, and what is an old repetitive perception.
This makes it easier to trust what we feel moment to moment, without fretting or controlling ahead.
March 2022
BEING ME VERSUS YOU BEING YOU
This month we will cover the core theme of ‘INDIVIDUATION SEPARATION’. This is healthy function which develops as we grow up, that allows us to experience us as a UNIQUE SEPARATE individual.
With the individuation separation we learn to see that the other person has their own separate world. And we become okay with that.
April 2022
BEING ME AT MY WORST
The adaptation we learn as a child are protective defence mechanisms. When we are caught in such a defence mechanism, we sometimes end up in unpleasant behaviours, like distrust, judgement or superiority/inferiority dynamics.
We can call these our ‘shadow sides’, which often create deep SHAME in us. But when we realise the ‘why’ of such traits, things can change.
May 2022
BEING ME WITHOUT APOLOGY
To be ourselves without apology, we need to feel happy in our skin, and feel relaxed about who we are. When our nervous system has learnt (usually in childhood) that being relaxedly me is not allowed, we feel constantly on alert, trying to work out what I ‘should’ be and do.
There are ways to land back in our skin, happy BEING ME.
June 2022
BEING ME WHEN I AM TRIGGERED
Being triggered means that something in the present has touched (triggered) something strong and unresolved in us from the past. This is why something relatively small in the present, can cause inexplicably big feelings of overwhelm.
We will explore SELF-REGULATION and resourcing to switch back to feelings of safety in the present.
July 2022
BEING ME IN CONFLICT
Many of us fear, avoid or struggle around conflict. Exploring this theme, you will discover that we struggle with conflict when the CONFLICT IS INSIDE US.
When there is no conflict inside, clarity comes, and we can then express our opinion in a clear and boundaried way.
August 2022
BEING ME COURAGEOUSLY
We generally associate courage with being strong and brave. But the word courage comes from the Old French word ‘corage’ meaning heart and INNERMOST FEELINGS.
What my clients keep discovering is that the courage of being themselves is all about trusting and following their innermost feelings and needs. Nothing to do with pressurizing oneself.
BEING ME UNI (what we’ve done)
TUES 15 DEC 2020
THE BUTTERFLY MODEL & YOUR FIRST STEPS
Once you’ve chosen the difficulty you want to work with, the Butterfly Model first helps you reveal the lie you’ve been telling about yourself in this area.
This will be an old belief that’s not actually true.
THURS 21 JAN 2021
WHAT’S THE BEHAVIOUR AND FEAR?
When we spot our adaptive behaviour in relation to this theme, it then magically reveals the fear beneath…
And, guess what, this tends to be a very hold fear.
THURS 25 FEB 2021
WHAT’S THE PAIN BENEATH?
Beneath our big fears, there’s usually a pain we’re trying to avoid. But when we discover that this pain belongs to the past, we can be compassionate and allow the healing to happen.
This makes us feel us very present and okay in the here and now.
THURS 25 MAR 2021
THE GOD ME (An Introduction)
This is HUGE. It’s a big idea and will likely change the way you see things.
Gaia will say more in this Introducion.
13 AUG 2020 - The People Pleaser Part II
“ALL MY FEELINGS ARE VALID” – a new possibility for people pleasers
From figuring out what everyone else expects of us, to feeling what is right for me.
16 SEP 2020 - The Perfectionist Part I
The fifth adaptive Mechanism: The Perfectionist
How we can constantly reject ourselves and our natural need to be okay and acceptable as we are.
15 OCT 2020 - The Perfectionist Part II
“I AM TRULY OKAY AS ME” – A new possibility for perfectionists
From improving, to being.
16 NOV 2020
CHOOSE YOUR DIFFICULTY
There’s always a difficulty to work with (and particularly in these difficult times). And inside the difficulty, it’s possible to discern a theme that can start to flag where to go next on your Butterfly Journey.
23 APR 2020 - The Helper Part II
“ I MATTER” – a new possibility for helpers
From last on the list to worthy, and worthy of attention (from self and others).
27 MAY 2020 - The Superwoman/man Part I
The third adaptive Mechanism: The Superman / Superwoman
How we suppress the natural mix of vulnerability and capability, and end up controlling everything (and exhausting ourselves).
19 JUN 2020 - The Superwoman/man Part II
“I CAN BE BOTH VULNERABLE AND POWERFUL” – a new possibility for Superpeople
From (fear-based) control, to (life-filled) trust.
THURS 9 JUL 2020 - The People Pleaser Part I
The fourth adaptive Mechanism: The People Pleaser
How we forgo our own feelings and disconnect from knowing what is right for us (thus failing to express it).
12 DEC 2019 - Introduction to the Hidden Source Process
The introduction to this revolutionary idea.
Finding the ‘Hidden Source’ and making our way back to our true and full selves.
16 JAN 2020 - The Outsider Part I
The First adaptive Mechanism: ‘The Outsider’
How we suppress our deep longing for connection.
20 FEB 2020 - The Outsider Part II
“THERE IS LOVE FOR ME” – a new possibility for outsiders
From ‘the outsider’ to ‘the included’ (from self and others).
24 MAR 2020 - The Helper Part I
The Second adaptive Mechanism: ‘The Helper’
How we suppress our natural needs and our desire to be seen and supported
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ABOUT THIS F**K IT MAGIC eCOURSE
This eCourse has, up until recently, only been available to those who’d been on a F**k It retreat with Gaia .
And their feedback was that it provided a new and unique way to take the learning from the retreat out into their lives, and to deepen that learning in its application.
Every day (for 21 days), you will receive a recording from Gaia (each one is around 20 minutes). So it’s manageable to keep up with no matter how busy you are.
To get a real feeling for the magic quality of this eCourse – watch the video above, which is an extract from one of the recordings, and have a read below of the daily topics.
DAY 1 – FEELING SUPPORTED
DAY 2 – THE CONDITIONS OF OPENING
DAY 3 – FINDING A NICE SPOT
DAY 4 – RESOURCES
DAY 5 – IS IT HAPPENING NOW?
DAY 6 – STEP-BY-STEP
DAY 7 – ENERGY & ENERGY MOVING
DAY 8 – ALIVENESS IN THE BODY
DAY 9 – THE DANGER OF LABELS
DAY 10 – JUDGEMENT
DAY 11 – BOO TO CONTROLLING
DAY 12 – WILL Vs FLOW
DAY 13 – WILL Vs FLOW II
DAY 14 – RECEIVING
DAY 15 – FEELING SAFE
DAY 16 – LOVE & ACCEPTANCE (OF SELF)
DAY 17 – FIGHTING & FLYING
DAY 18 – ABOUT BEING BLOCKED
DAY 19 – EXPLORING THE NO
DAY 20 – WHAT I NEED
DAY 21 – FROM THE VANTAGE POINT OF LOVE
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